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- [On Jealousy, Shame, and the Life I Thought I’d Have](https://www.roslimbo.com/2026/05/04/on-jealousy-shame-and-the-life-i-thought-id-have/) - Since the end of last year, I’ve been navigating difficult emotions such as jealousy, grief, and shame, and trying to understand where they come from. In this reflection, I explore what these feelings mean, how they shape us, and how learning to process negative emotions can be the first step toward healing and self-awareness.
- [The Friend That Was Never Picked](https://www.roslimbo.com/2026/04/23/the-friend-that-was-never-picked/) - There’s a quiet kind of pain in being the one who is never chosen; the one who learns to shrink, to settle, to accept less just to feel seen. This is a reflection on growing up invisible, navigating rejection, and the slow, difficult journey of unlearning the belief that you have to earn your place in people’s lives. It’s about breaking free from the cycle of accepting the bare minimum and learning, piece by piece, to finally choose yourself.
- [35 and Learning Myself From Scratch](https://www.roslimbo.com/2026/01/22/35-and-learning-myself-from-scratch/) - As I turn 35, I’m realising that healing doesn’t always look like answers. Sometimes it looks like beginning again; learning yourself slowly, honestly, without judgement. I’m unlearning the idea that strength means silence, that discipline equals wholeness, or that doing everything “right” guarantees safety. What I’m discovering instead is quieter, and more tender: that healing begins when we allow ourselves to be fully human. This year isn’t about reinvention. It’s about permission. And perhaps that’s where healing truly starts.
- [There Is No Reward for Being Good](https://www.roslimbo.com/2025/10/30/there-is-no-reward-for-being-good/) - I used to believe that being good would save me; that obedience, kindness, and quiet endurance would lead me to peace. But life has taught me otherwise. Goodness doesn’t guarantee happiness. Sometimes it just leaves you lonely, overlooked, and exhausted from trying to earn what should’ve been freely given.
- [Mourning the Lost Twenty Something and Choosing to Live the Next Chapter](https://www.roslimbo.com/2025/09/21/mourning-the-lost-twenty-something-and-choosing-to-live-the-next-chapter/) - Ageing is strange. One day you’re young and carefree, the next you’re the adult making decisions that shape lives. Lately I’ve been realising how quickly time has moved, and with that realisation comes a quiet grief — grief for the twenties I never truly lived. I spent those years surviving, proving, performing. Now, as I watch the younger ones in my family step into their own freedom, I can’t help but wonder if I missed mine. This post is me mourning the girl I didn’t get to be, while still trying to believe there’s more life ahead.
- [I Died at 25 — and It Saved My Life](https://www.roslimbo.com/2025/09/16/i-died-at-25-and-it-saved-my-life/) - At 22, I was convinced I wouldn’t live past 25. I prepared for the end with quiet determination, arranging my life as if it were a countdown. But life, in its strange, unpredictable way, had other plans. At 25, half of me did die — not physically, but the patterns, habits, and versions of myself that had survived trauma could no longer continue. And in their place, I found love, trust, and a life I never thought I could have. This is the story of how I died at 25… and how it saved me.
- [10 Things I Learnt in 25 Years](https://www.roslimbo.com/2016/01/22/10-things-i-learnt-in-25-years/) - They say that life is the best teacher. We will find ourselves faced with the same obstacle over and over again until we have learnt the correct lesson. I won't say that I'm old at 25, although I have an old spirit, but I have learnt enough to share with those that care to listen. Below
- [The Weight of Being Invisible: How Childhood Shapes Self-Worth](https://www.roslimbo.com/2025/09/04/the-weight-of-being-invisible-how-childhood-shapes-self-worth/) - Recently, I watched a video by StephCo, a YouTuber known for her thoughtful commentary. In this particular video, she was reflecting on pretty privilege—the idea that those deemed conventionally attractive are often treated better, given more opportunities, and seen through a more favorable lens than others. She spoke about her own experience, admitting that she
- [Learning to Celebrate Myself: Breaking a Lifetime of “Do Better” Conditioning](https://www.roslimbo.com/2025/08/31/learning-to-celebrate-myself-breaking-a-lifetime-of-do-better-conditioning/) - It’s interesting how many of us struggle to celebrate ourselves. We hold back, worried that celebrating will come across as vain, as if acknowledging our own success will outshine someone else or make them feel lesser than. But lately, I’ve been wondering if this hesitation is less about humility and more about something deeper—a trauma
- [Recovering Sugar Addict: The Sweet Truth That Woke Me Up](https://www.roslimbo.com/2025/06/20/recovering-sugar-addict-the-sweet-truth-that-woke-me-up/) - Yoghurt-coated cranberries made me realise that I might have a sugar problem. Last night, I had the bright idea to rearrange my kitchen cupboards. As I laid the items on the countertop, I noticed that the pile of yogurt-coated cranberries kept growing, followed closely by my boxes of Lindt chocolate and sugar-free sweets. I realised
- [Beyond the Postcards: The Unfiltered Reality of My UK Life](https://www.roslimbo.com/2025/06/01/beyond-the-postcards-the-unfiltered-reality-of-my-uk-life/) - When I realised I was moving to UK, I got so excited. I couldn't wait to ride in the famous double-decker buses and take Instagram worthy pictures in the red telephone booths. I was going to be a London girlie and my new life was going to be perfect and all my troubles would be
- [Eating Disorders in the Black Community](https://www.roslimbo.com/2022/04/05/eating-disorders-in-the-black-community/) - Black girls don't get eating disorders; a myth that has been perpetuated by media, fully embraced by all communities and fogged the lenses of health professionals. I remember sitting across from my psychiatrist when she informed me that I was being hospitalised. I wasn't sure how to react. I knew that I needed the help,
- [The Dangers of Perceiving Mental Health as a Fad](https://www.roslimbo.com/2023/07/06/the-dangers-of-perceiving-mental-health-as-a-fad/) - There are numerous posts of people talking about their anxiety, or how their OCD kicks in when things aren't symmetrical. And I can't help but wonder whether people are starting to use mental illnesses as synonyms for the feelings they are currently experiencing. Feeling sad becomes being depressed, paying attention to details becomes OCD, or
- [The Fear of Relationships: Part 2](https://www.roslimbo.com/2014/10/10/the-fear-of-relationships-part-2/) - I am often told that I'm a strong person. The type that doesn't cry and can stand their ground. The world had convinced me that I don't need anyone as I can fend for myself. Maybe that's why I have built this solid wall around my heart. I find it difficult to reach out for
- [The Fear of Relationships: Part 1](https://www.roslimbo.com/2014/10/09/the-fear-of-relationships-part-1/) - I am not the best when it comes to relationships. If anything me being single is a testimony of how relationships are testing and draining for me. After speaking with a friend about how I act in relationships, I came to realise that many can't and won't understand the stance a depressive takes in relationships
- [Unlocking Love: How Your Attachment Style Shapes Relationships](https://www.roslimbo.com/2024/05/20/unlocking-love-how-your-attachment-style-shapes-relationships/) - Understanding Attachment Styles: Navigating Relationships with Confidence Weddings bring friends and family together, but for me, they also bring anxiety and fear. It's not that I don't like my family—I do, for the most part. The issue is that I struggle to relate to everyone in the way I think I should. This realization led
- [But Do You Deserve It Though?](https://www.roslimbo.com/2024/02/06/but-do-you-deserve-it-though/) - Today I want us to discuss whether you actually deserve it. Do you actually deserve achieving your dreams? Do you deserve that car, that house, that lifestyle? I was listening to the To My Sisters podcast which explored the concept of how words have power. And apart from words having power, we need to be
- [Facing Change: How to Embrace New Opportunities](https://www.roslimbo.com/2023/11/05/embracing-new-opportunities/) - The post discusses the challenges and benefits of embracing life changes. The author, who recently moved continents, explores four consequences of resisting change: missed opportunities, stagnation, mental health issues, and hampered personal growth. They then offer strategies for adapting to change: acceptance, embracing the change, flexibility, and focusing on positive aspects. Despite obstacles and fears, they underline that being open to change can lead to personal and professional growth, new experiences, and a more fulfilling life.
- [Turning 30? Here is What I Learnt in My 29 Years](https://www.roslimbo.com/2020/05/15/a-few-things-i-learnt-before-30/) - Are you afraid of ageing? I’m not sure if I’m afraid of ageing or if I am afraid of the change that comes with it. Family members move away, best friends become distant acquaintances and the person in the mirror seems like a stranger. People say life starts at 30, but there’s this dread weighing
- [Veganism and Eating Disorders](https://www.roslimbo.com/2021/01/06/veganism-and-eating-disorders/) - When I went vegan my therapist asked me whether it was my decision or that of the eating disorder. In all honesty, I didn't really know. I remember the day I decided to stop eating meat. I remember explaining to family that I no longer enjoyed meat and thus didn't see the need to eat
- [The Invisible Prison of Eating Disorders](https://www.roslimbo.com/2020/10/21/seeing-the-unseen/) - I have lost almost 10kg over the past three months. And getting there took drastic measures. And not the ones you may be thinking about. When you have an eating disorder, losing weight can be tricky. My psychologist told me that for those with eating disorders, there is a fine line between eating well and
- [Hey There Beautiful](https://www.roslimbo.com/2021/12/01/hey-there/) - It feels weird coming back to writing....coming back to blogging because I haven't been doing it for such a long time. But more than anything I haven't been doing it consistently for a very long time.
- [Depression: The Ability to Fake Happiness](https://www.roslimbo.com/2015/04/04/reflection/) - My ability to fake happiness is beginning to shock me. It is almost automatic: a quick smile, a laugh and polite nod to seem interested in conversation. I don't know if calling it a coping mechanism is appropriate as I know how to cope with my unhappiness. I think it's the world that doesn't get
- [You Are Worthy of Love and Happiness](https://www.roslimbo.com/2015/06/13/what-do-you-deserve/) - You deserve nothing more than the best. You were destined to have everything you desire, and more.... But do you believe it? I remember staying up at night as a child and dreaming of my happily ever after. I would imagine my gorgeous husband, beautiful children and massive mansion. For a few moments I got
- [I'm Tired of These Seven Questions](https://www.roslimbo.com/2015/07/04/seven-questions-im-tired-of-answering/) - I am very open about my struggle with depression. I share and answer as many questions as possible in hopes that it will aid the next person. However there are questions that I simply can't bring myself to answer anymore. So here they are: 1. You are so happy, you can't be depressed? I'm an
- [Why Do I Have This Blog Anyway?](https://www.roslimbo.com/2020/12/20/why-have-this-blog-anyway/) - I don't know. No really, I don't know. I started blogging in 2014. Back then I just wanted to write so I switched my pen for the keyboard. I still had the dream of becoming a fulltime writer. I imagined that one day HuffPost would publish my work and my life would be changed forever.
- [Be Like Messi: Ignoring Exernal Negativity and Pursuing Growth](https://www.roslimbo.com/2022/12/18/ignoring-exernal-negativity/) - It's the 18th of December 2022 and Lionel Messi has finally won his World Cup! Yes Argentina won, but I mean it's Messi's World Cup. If you watch football or have any interest in football, or soccer if you're in America, you will know that Messi is regarded as one of the greatest players that
- [Being More Present in My Friendships](https://www.roslimbo.com/2022/02/21/friendships/) - Let's talk friendships. Friendship is defined as a state of mutual trust and support. However, recently I have started to wonder how the manner in which you trust and support yourself impacts how you trust and support those around you. As an adult, forming and maintaining friendships becomes a challenge. This is because we become
- [2021: Toxic Traits and Self-Discovery](https://www.roslimbo.com/2022/01/29/lessons-from-2021/) - Hi everyone This post is somewhat late. I have been going back and forth deciding whether I really wanted to write it. This is because I have come to see just how problematic New Year's resolutions can be. Resolutions, at times, have a way of holding us back; keeping us trapped in our old ways
- [The Constant Need For Boundaries](https://www.roslimbo.com/2015/07/17/the-need-for-boundaries/) - This week has been a very interesting one for me. It's one of those weeks where you learn so much about yourself, that your head spins. All that truth seems to only bring you confusion, and not the clarity that it always promises. I have learnt that I need to establish boundaries around my physical,
- [8 Reasons Why Depression Is Good](https://www.roslimbo.com/2015/07/10/8-reasons-why-depression-is-good/) - Two months ago my friend Aili asked me to write about the positive side of depression. The idea caught me off guard, and seemed ridiculous. How can one draw anything good from a disorder that leaves you drained, both physically and mentally? How can anything positive come from something that has managed to turn your
- [A Daughter's First Love](https://www.roslimbo.com/2015/06/20/daddy-issues/) - A father is said to be his daughter's first love, and his son's hero; but what if he is the villain that leaves both hearts and homes broken? I have never seen my father in my life.... I remember when that phrase made cringe. Children can be mean, and they would taunt anyone who didn't
- [Self-sabotage and the Power of Words](https://www.roslimbo.com/2015/05/16/the-power-of-words/) - I often ask myself what it takes to be successful? Why do some people with the same abilities and opportunities do better in life? I recently decided to take more risks, well as much risk as anyone with GAD (generalised anxiety disorder) can take at any given moment. I decided to go and audition as
- [The Lure of Having a Child](https://www.roslimbo.com/2015/05/02/the-lure-of-having-a-child/) - I watch people with their children. I see how parents see their children as both a blessing, and an extension of themselves. I makes me wonder whether I'll be equipped to be a mother? My stance on children was very clear when I was young. I didn't want to have one. I couldn't understand why

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